When my kids were little, they loved for me to tuck them into bed and pray for them at night. Now they’re hulking teenagers, and it’s almost impossible for me to stay up late enough to tuck them in. But you know what? They still like it when I pray for them at bedtime.
I suspect they like it because I pray blessing over them. I list their qualities and talents, thanking God for each one. I pray that they’ll know how much God and their dad and I love them.
Our kids need affirmation, yet how often is our interaction with them based on instruction and correction?
I’m the queen of correction, let me tell you.
- “Could you pick your towel up?”
- “Can you straighten your room?”
- “Did you turn in your assignment?”
I easily fall into a mode of correcting and instructing. Paul might have been talking about me when he said:
I want to teach my kids so many things. But you know what? The most important thing I really want them to know is the very same thing God wanted Jesus to know. In Mark 1 right after Jesus was baptized, a voice from heaven said,
More than anything I want my kids to know I love them.
Our kids need to know we’ll love them no matter what. That we notice and appreciate their efforts. That girl needs to know we think she’s beautiful, funny, and smart. That boy needs to know we think he’s strong, handsome, and capable.
- Even when your toddler girl just peed on the floor at the grocery store.
- Even when your teenaged boy doesn’t make the grade he hoped for.
That’s when they need to know most of all that we love them anyway. Our kids hear so many voices from the world. Let’s be that clear, steady voice that says, “You are my dearly loved Son, and you bring me great joy.”
Now it’s your turn. What’s a practical way to communicate unconditional love to our kids today?