No one ever told me that motherhood was sometimes like being a drill sergeant. Someone’s got to get the troups organized. I easily fall into a mode of barking out orders when I’m trying to get everyone out the door: “It’s time to get going!” “Get your shoes on!” “Could you PLEASE turn off that computer!”
Between orthodontist appointments, piano lessons, grocery shopping, preparing meals, house cleaning, and ministry, I can fall into a pattern of rushing myself and my kids through the day. My kids would be the first to tell you that Drill Sergeant Mom is no fun.
A thoughtful comment on my blog the other day stopped me in my tracks. Lisa (from Me Too Moments for Moms) said this:
“I am learning to leave busy things undone so that I can slow down and be fun to be around. I want my kids to see me as a happy mom, not just as a busy mom. When I get too busy I am one agitated person that no one wants to be around.”
Yikes! I wondered if somehow Kim had gotten into my house and seen agitated me on the busy days.
I’m asking myself some questions.
Do I want my kids to remember me as a happy mom who enjoyed life or as a busy drill sergeant mom?
What can I let go of?
My kids won’t remember how many Bible studies I led, how many blog posts I wrote, or how clean the house was. Instead they’ll remember trips to the beach, goofing around, and playing games together. I want to evaluate what activities I can let go of in my schedule to have more margin time in my days for fun with my kids.
Can I let go of control and say yes to spontaneity?
This morning my kids continued with their daily karaoke dance routine even though it was time to start home school. Because I bit the bullet and danced along with them, we began the day on a happy note. Did it really matter that we started school three minutes late?
What are easy ideas for simple, quick fun?
My reality is that our family rarely has time or foresight to plan “perfect” fun like a wilderness day or a game night with special snacks. We mostly settle for simple fun that fits into daily life. For us this looks like a walk around the park or a few hands of gin rummy after dinner. Some nights we sit on the couch with hot chocolate to watch our favorite TV show. I’m hoping to get some new ideas from my readers.
So now it’s your turn. What is your favorite way to have fun with your kids? (And do you ever feel like a drill sergeant at home?)
I’m linking up today with Equipping Godly Women.